How to Have a Healthy Divorce
Going through a divorce can be a very stressful and emotionally trying time. Even if you and your spouse are on agreeable terms, all it takes is one disagreement over a minor subject and you can suddenly find yourself in a very contentious divorce battle. However, there are steps you can take to help keep the peace both during your divorce and after it is final. Even though you will no longer be married, if you and your spouse have children together, you will both still be involved in some manner for the rest of your lives. Getting along together makes it that much better for everyone.
One of the most important ingredients to a healthy divorce and friendly relationship with your ex is communication. Once you have made the decision to divorce, both you and your spouse should sit down and discuss what both your expectations are in ending the marriage. Communication is especially crucial when there are children involved because the two of you will now be co-parenting from different households. It is critical to keep your children’s best interest first.
Even the best parents, when upset or angry with their spouse, can sometimes lose sight of how situations may be affecting their child during what can be acrimonious interactions with the other parent. Being kind to your soon-to-be ex-spouse is important, even if it is not reciprocated. Treat him or her the way you want to be treated. Eventually, if your ex is not getting a reaction from you, he or she just may treat you the same way. It is also a good example to set for your children.
It is key during divorce negotiations not to let your emotions get in the way of reason, as difficult as that can be sometimes. Think of this as a business deal and you are negotiating the contract. In reality, despite the emotions that are attached, that is exactly what you are doing.
A divorce should not rule your life and it is important to not allow it to take over and become the primary focus over all other aspects of your life. Many people find it helpful to go to counseling during this time.
If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, there are several issues that may need negotiated, such as child custody and support, property and asset division, spousal support, and college expenses. Contact an experienced Geneva family law attorney to discuss your options and needs.