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Kane County divorce attorneyMarriage is a bond that unites two people. However, even though a couple’s marriage vows say that they will stay together “in sickness and in health,” sometimes a marriage does not last, and divorce becomes necessary. Some cultures and religions look down on getting a divorce, and parents may think that it is better to say married for their children, but a divorce is often the best decision for the two parties, and living in an unhappy home can cause more harm to children than separated parents.

During the colonial days of the United States, one of the earliest examples of divorce could be seen in Massachusetts. In 1629, a judicial council was developed there to grant divorces on the grounds of instances such as of bigamy, adultery, or desertion. Today, an affair is still a common reason for a couple to get a divorce, but there are a wide variety of other circumstances in which a couple may decide to separate, including:

  • Different Life Goals - It is easy to think that life will proceed the way you expect after getting married. The truth is, some people get married without discussing their future together. If one spouse wants to travel the globe while the other wants to settle down and start a family, it will be difficult for them to see eye to eye down the road, and they may not wish to stay together. Some people also think that they will be able to change their spouse’s habits or negative qualities. When this effort turns out to be fruitless, it may be time to consider divorce.
  • Wrong Reasons - It is true that some people marry for money, and these types of marriages often end in divorce. Another wrong reason a person may get married is because they feel like they have to. If someone is in a relationship for a long time and feels pressured to take the next step, or if a couple chooses to get married before they are ready for this commitment, these marriages are usually not built to last.
  • No Romance - A relationship may have started out full of fire and passion, but after years of being together, the romance and effort may have died, and neither partner is likely to be happy. A healthy relationship maintains an equilibrium in which both partners are satisfied. Every couple has a different love language, but if partners are not taking time for each other or are avoiding each other’s company, there may be no love left to share, and divorce may be the best option. 

Contact a Kane County Divorce Attorney

No matter the reason for your divorce, you deserve to take steps that will lead you towards a happier life. To ensure that you can reach a positive outcome to your divorce, contact an experienced Geneva divorce attorney to work out issues such as the division of assets and parental responsibilities. Call our office today at 630-232-9700 to schedule a consultation.  

 relationship doubts IMAGEIs it possible that there’s a test that could help us better understand the connection between relationship doubts and divorce rates? According to research published in the journal Science, there’s more to relationship jitters than previously thought. Relationship doubts, especially when combined with other challenges within a relationship, can lead to separation and even divorce for couples down the road.

Scientists discovered that gut reactions experienced by people shortly after their wedding can provide a good prediction about whether the marriage would still be intact four years after saying “I do”. The study included 135 newlywed couples, all of whom reported that they were happily married. The goal of the test is to reach subconscious doubts about the relationship, since not many newlyweds would report unhappiness or concerns right away. Each individual was shown a picture of their spouse and asked to come up with a positive or negative key word associated with their spouse. Those individuals who were more positive about their relationship had no hesitations in answering the question, but those who waited a couple of seconds before responding were more likely to get divorced within the next four years.

Having relationship and marriage doubts is something that anyone can experience, but if you are feeling haunted by these feelings, you might be considering divorce. There are many reasons that you might be feeling doubts- such as suspected infidelity, different life paths, or even growing apart. As people grow and change, it’s possible that your marriage makes you unhappy and would lead you to consider divorce. While it’s not an easy decision, it might be the most appropriate course of action for you and your situation. If you would like to talk over your options with an expert, reach out to an Illinois divorce attorney today to get your questions answered.

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