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Kane County divorce lawyersOnce you have made the decision to end your marriage, there is no point in delaying or dragging out the proceedings. Divorce is rarely easy but the legal process itself does not need to take countless months as you and your spouse place your lives on hold. In many cases, you may be able obtain a finalized divorce judgment in a little as just a few weeks, but doing so requires a bit of effort on your part and cooperation from your spouse.

#1: Develop a Plan of Attack

The easiest way to eliminate delays in divorce is to negotiate as much of your settlement as you possibly can. You and your spouse may not agree on everything, so start with the simplest topics. For example, if you have little concern about certain pieces of property, agree on those and then build on the cooperative momentum. Eventually, you will get to more difficult subjects, but, by that point, you will have likely established a level of commitment to completing the process amicably.

#2: Choose Your Battles

If you and your spouse cannot reach an agreement before filing for divorce, you can still help move the proceedings along by controlling yourself and your need to “win” on all fronts. By picking a fight—or engaging when your spouse picks one—on every concern, you will never make real progress toward a resolution. Decide what is truly important to—your children, for example—and focus your energy on that particular area while letting less significant things go.

divorce, divorce process, Geneva family lawyerIf you are like most people, the thought of a long, drawn-out divorce seems to be torturous and unnecessary ordeal. You have reached the end of your marriage and, while there will certainly be challenges, you would prefer to complete the divorce as quickly and painlessly as possible. There is no need to complicate the process any further.

Fortunately, by approaching your divorce with the right attitude—and encouraging your spouse to do the same—the proceedings can often handled efficiently and with minimal stress. Additionally, a quick, solid resolution can also have the added advantage of reducing expenses related to legal fees and court costs. To facilitate a faster divorce process, make every attempt to:

  • Clearly hear and understand your spouse: Marriage is built on compromise and a workable divorce is not really any different. You and your spouse may have differing opinions on what you believe to be fair, and it is important that you clearly understand each other. This does not mean you have to agree, but recognizing and respecting his or her perspective can help you reach a faster resolution;
  • Swallow your pride on some issues: You can choose to fight tooth-and-nail over every detail of your divorce. That is certainly your legal right. However, when a marriage ends, there are no winners. Be willing to set aside your ego over certain matters and put your future well-being and that of your spouse and children first.
  • Realize the law may not have all the answers: Just because divorce laws say you may be entitled to something, the possibility exists that you may not be. Work with your lawyer and your spouse to find middle ground. It could take a court months to apply the law to each and every detail of your situation, but just several weeks to approve a negotiated settlement; and
  • Avoid letting emotions dictate your divorce: You have every right to feel angry, hurt, sad, betrayed, and any other emotions as you go through divorce. If at all possible, however, do your best to separate your feelings from the process. You will need to make logical decisions in the best interest of your future, not rash judgments made because you are still mad at your spouse. In addition, your spouse and the court are more likely to accept your well-reasoned position as a starting point for compromise.

There are many ways in which a couple may increase the likelihood of a faster divorce, and there equally many ways in which a couple may hamper the process. Doug Warlick is an experienced Geneva divorce attorney equipped to help you achieve a workable agreement in the shortest amount of time possible. Contact our office today and find out what our team can do you.

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