An article in the publication the Daily Mail recently asked, “Do trial separations work?” Many couples who are experiencing troubles in their marriage opt for a separation to see if they can work through the issues. The hoped-for goal for some couples is to work through the issues and repair the marriage. For other couples, the time apart from their spouse helps them to decide if divorce is really the choice they want. However, many legal experts say that filing for divorce is the most common result of trial separations.
There are a variety of reasons that spouses decide to separate. Frequently, major life events can trigger a separation. A birth of a child is a major life changer for many couples. If one spouse becomes the primary caretaker, resentments can build up on both sides. The spouse who is staying home may begin to resent giving up their career; the spouse who is out working may resent being the pressure of being the primary breadwinner.
The empty-nest syndrome can also play a role in couples wondering if their marriage is over. With children now gone, couples may look at each other and wonder what, if anything, they actually have in common.