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Geneva family law attorneyWhen you are faced with the possibility of a divorce, dozens of questions start to race through your head. You are likely to be wondering how you will tell your children, where you will live, and how you will make life after divorce work for you. For many people, issues of money are often the most pressing. How can a spouse who has relied on his or her partner financially for many years be expected to suddenly support him- or herself when the marriage ends? In Illinois, such a spouse may not have to do so, but nothing regarding alimony is guaranteed in advance.

Need-Based Considerations

Alimony is now known under Illinois law as maintenance. It is often referred to as spousal support as well. Whatever you may choose to call it, such awards are intended to alleviate the financial effects of a divorce on a spouse who may be an economic disadvantage. There is more to a maintenance case, however, than just money. Otherwise, any time that one spouse makes more than the other, the lower-earning spouse could expect to receive support following a divorce. Instead, the court will look at a number of factors that take into account the entire marital and divorce situation.

Geneva family law atttorneyUnlike fathers who were married to the mother of their child at the time of birth, unwed fathers are not automatically granted parental rights. Instead, they must take legal steps to establish their role in the life of a child. This starts with the establishment of paternity, which is not presumed for unwed fathers, and continues with a petition to the court. If you are an unwed father and want to gain and establish legal rights to parent your child, the following information can help.

Establishing Paternity

Before an unmarried father can seek legal parenting rights to his child, he must first establish paternity. This can be done in one of three ways:

Geneva divorce lawyerApproaching divorce with the right perspective is often much easier said than done, but when you are able to look at the end of your marriage through a positive lens, the outcome is generally healthier and less stressful for everyone involved. Grief and healing are processes that inevitably take time, but when you channel your energy into staying focused on new beginnings that will result from the separation, the road to peace and acceptance is less bumpy.

Here are three ways to help yourself develop a positive perspective on divorce:

1. Cut Your Losses

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Geneva divorce attorneyThe months and even years after a divorce can be rough. You are redefining yourself as a single person after being one half of a couple. Depending on how long you were married, it has possibly been a long time since you dated. Soon after a divorce the prospect of finding a new partner or “getting back out there” may be daunting. It is important to realize that you do not have to start dating again until you are ready.

Mental health and relationship professionals agree that individuals should give themselves time to mourn the loss of their marriage just as they would mourn a physical loss. How will you know if you are ready? There are a few clues experts say to look for, including:

  • You Stop Ruminating About the Past: There will never be a time that you forget about your ex-spouse completely but thinking of him or her less often is a sign that you are healing emotionally. In the immediate aftermath of a divorce you may be consumed with thoughts about your former partner, feeling emotions like anger, sadness, and disbelief. You may fantasize about how things could have been different in your relationship. Many people find that these feelings and thoughts diminish with time. Eventually, you will be ready to stop living in the past and instead live in the present and look forward to the future.
  • You Begin to Have Increased Feelings of Self-Esteem: Divorce can take a toll on your self-esteem and feelings of worth. If you are the person who ended the relationship, you may feel guilty that you could not make the relationship work or that you “broke up the family.” If you were not the one who ended the marriage, you may worry that you are unlovable or that no one else will ever want to have a relationship with you. Over time, these feelings are likely to change. You may be introduced to someone who you find attractive and realize that they are interested in you as well. Just like Ralph Mouth from Happy Days, you may think to yourself, “I still got it!”
  • You Are Not Trying to Replace Your Former Spouse: You will know you are ready to start dating after a divorce when you are not trying to replace your spouse. Rather than attempting to hold onto the past by finding a replica of him or her, you realize that you are actually moving forward looking for a fresh experience with someone completely new.
  • You Have Worked Through Your Feelings With A Therapist, Friend, or Family Member: Everyone needs someone to lean on during tough times. For some, this is a trusted friend or family member and for others, it may be a professional therapist. If therapy is not the right choice for you, it is still good to work through your post-divorce emotions in a healthy and constructive way. Many people find that divorce support groups offer a great deal of help and guidance as well.
  • You Can See the Opportunities That Being Divorced Offers You: Perhaps you can now pursue a hobby or goal you always dreamed of starting. Perhaps this was a dream that you felt selfish for pursuing as a married person, or maybe you just did not have the time to pursue it.

If you have taken an objective look at your situation and have realized that divorce is your best option, contact an experienced Geneva divorce attorney to discuss your next steps. Call 630-232-9700 for a confidential consultation with The Law Offices of Douglas B. Warlick & Associates today.

Geneva family law attorneyIn a world where a video game stores will hold midnight release parties for the latest “first-person shooter”—think Call of Duty—or open-world, “sandbox” title—Grand Theft Auto—parents often struggle with finding ways to get their children off of the couch. Very few probably ever thought that one solution might be found in yet another type of video game.  About two weeks ago, Pokémon Go was released as a smartphone version of a franchise that has entertained children and adult around the world for nearly two decades. The release instantly sparked a wave of interest as players from all walks of life became invested in the “augmented reality” game. As you might expect, however, there have been some problems and dangers associated with Pokémon Go. If you are a parent whose children are caught up trying to “catch ‘em all,” talk to them about staying safe while having fun.

What is Augmented Reality?

Augmented reality is a video game format that utilizes a player’s real-world surroundings, incorporating them into the gameplay. Pokémon Go, for example, uses GPS and location systems to pinpoint where a player is, then overlays images and Pokémon creatures as part of the game. This means that players must move around city streets, parks, and other locations while the game presents new creatures to be caught, trained, and fought. When your children are chasing Pokémon in a park, or in someone’s yard, there is a danger of tripping and falling when watching their phone screen instead of the walkway. But in other settings, there are much more serious concerns.

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