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couples, daily household chores, Geneva family law attorney, household duties, husbands and chores, Illinois family law, marriage trends, share household chores, sharing responsibilityA new study published by the University of Illinois confirms that couples who equally share responsibility for the household chores have a better chance of staying together and avoiding divorce court.

The study, recently conducted with over 220 couples participating, concluded that wives who choose to equally divide the daily household chores are significantly happier, especially when their husbands are totally agreeable. If the husband falls behind in his duties or flat out refuses to cooperate, the wives' happiness sharply plummets. Hence the saying, “a happy wife, a happy life!”

There is a catch though, states the research team. This formula of marital bliss with regard to household chores is only effective if the wife is willing to hand over a fair share of the daily duties.

Posted on in Divorce

single parent, parenting, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois family law attorney, child custodyAs the divorce rate increases, so too does the number of single parent households. Right now, there are fifteen million children in this country who live without a father. That’s 1 in 3 children. And there are almost 5 million children who live without a mother.

Dealing with the issues that come up when raising children can be hard enough in two parent households, but it can be twice as hard for single parents who are doing all the work alone. Single parents typically face more financial struggles, especially single mothers. Statistics show that the average annual income of married parents is $80,000. The average annual income for single mothers is $24,000.

Time is another commodity that single parents find there just is not enough of. Having the sole responsible of taking care of the children, all the household responsibilities, plus being the only breadwinner in the house can take its toll. It’s important to have a support system in place, whether it’s a family member, friend or child-care provider, to help provide some respite from all your parenting responsibilities.

Domestic violence often leaves evidence of physical trauma, but yet another form of abuse can cut even deeper. If left unchecked, long-term emotional abuse can lead to feelings of diminished self-worth and loss of independence for the victimized spouse. By achieving these results, the abusive spouse exercises abnormal control.The cycle begins with a simple criticism and then builds. Often the abuser will break the cycle with what appears to be a sincere apology, but both partners soon find themselves caught up in the cycle of verbal abuse once again.

 emotional abuse IAMGEDenial can also be an underlying factor of years of abuse. If you can truthfully answer yes to any of the following questions, you may have already taken the first step in breaking the cycle of abuse. Be honest, take a few minutes on each question, write down your answers as they pertain to your situation, you may be surprised at your answers.

  • Does your spouse maintain total control of the family finances?
  • Does your spouse place you on an allowance?
  • Does your spouse restrict your access to bank accounts?
  • Does your spouse control all consumer purchases?
  • Does your spouse constantly belittle or criticise you?
  • Does your spouse isolate you from personal and professional relationships?
  • Does your spouse threaten you with bodily harm?

As dramatic as it may sound, the second step to removing yourself from the situation is to plan your “escape”. Following these guidelines could ensure your safety:

Posted on in Mediation

In Illinois, mediation as a means of resolving issues is becoming more prominent as people seek to avoid the costs of litigation. Mediation can be an effective means of resolving disputes that divorcing couples experience concerning property division and child-related issues. An experienced attorney and certified mediator can often present solutions to your divorce concerns while avoiding the unnecessary a time-consuming nature of litigation.

  divorce mediation IMAGEMediation

The Alternative Dispute Resolution, or Uniform Mediation Act as it is more commonly known, defines “mediation” as a “means or process in which a mediator facilitates communication and negotiation between parties to assist them in reaching a voluntary agreement regarding their dispute.”  The Act, listed in the Illinois Compiled Statutes under 710 ILCS 35/1 and its proceeding sections, provides the groundwork a mediator will follow.

 relationship doubts IMAGEIs it possible that there’s a test that could help us better understand the connection between relationship doubts and divorce rates? According to research published in the journal Science, there’s more to relationship jitters than previously thought. Relationship doubts, especially when combined with other challenges within a relationship, can lead to separation and even divorce for couples down the road.

Scientists discovered that gut reactions experienced by people shortly after their wedding can provide a good prediction about whether the marriage would still be intact four years after saying “I do”. The study included 135 newlywed couples, all of whom reported that they were happily married. The goal of the test is to reach subconscious doubts about the relationship, since not many newlyweds would report unhappiness or concerns right away. Each individual was shown a picture of their spouse and asked to come up with a positive or negative key word associated with their spouse. Those individuals who were more positive about their relationship had no hesitations in answering the question, but those who waited a couple of seconds before responding were more likely to get divorced within the next four years.

Having relationship and marriage doubts is something that anyone can experience, but if you are feeling haunted by these feelings, you might be considering divorce. There are many reasons that you might be feeling doubts- such as suspected infidelity, different life paths, or even growing apart. As people grow and change, it’s possible that your marriage makes you unhappy and would lead you to consider divorce. While it’s not an easy decision, it might be the most appropriate course of action for you and your situation. If you would like to talk over your options with an expert, reach out to an Illinois divorce attorney today to get your questions answered.

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