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communication and divorce, damage relationships, Geneva family law attorney, infidelity, social media, social media and relationships, social media reliance, The Law Offices of Douglas B. Warlick & Associates, TwitterThe University of Missouri recently published research results on how Twitter and social media can be hazardous to the health of our personal relationships. And while social networks have revolutionized how we build and maintain our relationships, researcher Russell Clayton, a doctoral student at the University of Missouri School of Journalism, claims that active Twitter users are more likely to experience conflict in the romance department.

According to an article recapping Clayton's findings published by the MU News, Clayton's research indicates that active Twitter users may find themselves outside the door looking in, as excessive Twitter use can lead to emotional and/or physical cheating or even divorce.

The study entitled, “The Third Wheel: The Impact of Twitter Use on Relationship Infidelity and Divorce” was recently published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. In fact, this recent study on Twitter and its hazards of the romantic type was in follow-up to Clayton's previous study on Facebook and how spending too much face-time on the social site can also lead to cheating and divorce.

For the Twitter study, Clayton polled over 580 Twitter users from all demographic backgrounds and age ranges. By asking participants certain questions regarding their Twitter usage Clayton found that more than often a study participant openly admitted that his or her Twitter usage was found to have an increase in partner conflict often leading to undesirable outcomes such as infidelity or even divorce.

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Research from the U.K. recently found that “warring couples are only half as likely to cite adultery as the cause of marriage breakdown than they were 40 years ago,” according to The Guardian. Bad behavior, especially that which is considered unreasonable, was the leading reason for divorce—47 percent of people surveyed in the recent study. In the 1970s, what was considered unreasonable behavior accounted for only 28 percent of all divorces. “Examples of unreasonable behavior,” according to The Guardian, “include an unsociable husband making his wife feel guilty when she wanted to go out with her friends; a cross-dressing husband who decided to have a sex change; and a spouse withdrawing all the family savings.” Cheaters More Likely to Forgive Cheaters

Despite this, infidelity is still a major factor in the ever-increasing divorce rate, on both sides of the Atlantic. According to InfidelityFacts.com, 53 percent of all marriages in America end in divorce. More than 40 percent of married people surveyed “admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional,” according to InfidelityFacts.com. More men admit to infidelity than women, but not by much—57 percent of men vs. 54 percent of women.

All this research may illuminate how much cheating is going on in American marriages, but not the type of people for whom infidelity leads to divorce. New research published in the Journal of Sexuality and Culture and as reported by the Huffington Post, has found that cheaters are more likely to forgive infidelity than non-cheaters. “Men with cheating experience were most accepting / forgiving of the male cheating characters and women with cheating experience were most accepting / forgiving of the female cheating character,” the authors wrote. If your spouse automatically forgives you for cheating, that is, it could be because he or she has cheated in the past.

While there are many reasons that the divorce rate in modern society is high, one factor has remained constant throughout the modern age: infidelity. Infidelity may no longer be the number one reason for divorce—recent studies point to financial arguments and arguing in general as contributing to more divorces than infidelity—but it’s still a force to be reckoned with in many marriages. According to InfidelityFacts.com, 41 percent of people polled admit to marital infidelity, either emotional or physical. The percentage is slightly higher for men than for women: 57 percent of men “admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had,” compared to 54 percent of women. The average length of an affair, reports InfidelityFacts.com, is two years, which is likely the magic number for how long an affair can be conducted without the other spouse finding out about it. Not all infidelity is committed over a long period of time, however. More than 35 percent of men and women polled say that they cheat while on a business trip—which is more likely to have been a one-time event. Insecure Spouses More Likely to Commit Infidelity

All this goes to say that infidelity is common. If you’re concerned about infidelity, there are some warning signs you can watch for. A recent study published earlier this year in the Journal of Family Psychology and recently reported upon in the Huffington Post, states that, “spouses who are insecure about their partner’s commitment are more likely to be unfaithful.” The study, headed by Florida State psychologist V. Michelle Russell “found that couples in which one or more partners exhibited signs of ‘anxious attachment’—meaning they feared abandonment and acted clingy as a result—were more likely to stray outside the marriage, compared to spouses who were confident in their relationship.”

The findings may go against conventional understanding of marriage, in that the person who is most afraid of the marriage ending is the one actively taking steps toward making it happen. Psychologically, however, it makes sense. Russell told the Huffington Post that, “individuals high in attachment anxiety tend to feel that their needs for intimacy are not being met in their current relationships and use sex to meet their unmet needs.”

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 In a recent study conducted in the United Kingdom, almost twice as many men than women admitted to sneaking through their partner’s cell phone to see what they had been up to.

The study was done by the cell phone company Mobile Phone Checker. They asked 2,081 adults, all who are currently in relationships, if they had ever snooped through their significant other’s phone. More than half of the men surveyed – 62 percent – admitted they had. Only 34 percent of the women asked admitted to snooping through call records and text messages.

Almost ninety percent of all those who participated said their reason for snooping was the suspicion their partner was cheating on them or communicating with someone else in an inappropriate way. And almost half of those who did snoop had their suspicions confirmed – the evidence of cheating on their partner’s cell phone. More than fifty percent of respondents had access to their partner’s passcodes.

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