Subscribe to this list via RSS Blog posts tagged in preparing for divorce

Kane County divorce attorneyMarriage is a bond that unites two people. However, even though a couple’s marriage vows say that they will stay together “in sickness and in health,” sometimes a marriage does not last, and divorce becomes necessary. Some cultures and religions look down on getting a divorce, and parents may think that it is better to say married for their children, but a divorce is often the best decision for the two parties, and living in an unhappy home can cause more harm to children than separated parents.

During the colonial days of the United States, one of the earliest examples of divorce could be seen in Massachusetts. In 1629, a judicial council was developed there to grant divorces on the grounds of instances such as of bigamy, adultery, or desertion. Today, an affair is still a common reason for a couple to get a divorce, but there are a wide variety of other circumstances in which a couple may decide to separate, including:

  • Different Life Goals - It is easy to think that life will proceed the way you expect after getting married. The truth is, some people get married without discussing their future together. If one spouse wants to travel the globe while the other wants to settle down and start a family, it will be difficult for them to see eye to eye down the road, and they may not wish to stay together. Some people also think that they will be able to change their spouse’s habits or negative qualities. When this effort turns out to be fruitless, it may be time to consider divorce.
  • Wrong Reasons - It is true that some people marry for money, and these types of marriages often end in divorce. Another wrong reason a person may get married is because they feel like they have to. If someone is in a relationship for a long time and feels pressured to take the next step, or if a couple chooses to get married before they are ready for this commitment, these marriages are usually not built to last.
  • No Romance - A relationship may have started out full of fire and passion, but after years of being together, the romance and effort may have died, and neither partner is likely to be happy. A healthy relationship maintains an equilibrium in which both partners are satisfied. Every couple has a different love language, but if partners are not taking time for each other or are avoiding each other’s company, there may be no love left to share, and divorce may be the best option. 

Contact a Kane County Divorce Attorney

No matter the reason for your divorce, you deserve to take steps that will lead you towards a happier life. To ensure that you can reach a positive outcome to your divorce, contact an experienced Geneva divorce attorney to work out issues such as the division of assets and parental responsibilities. Call our office today at 630-232-9700 to schedule a consultation.  

Posted on in Divorce

geneva divorce attorneyChoosing to file for divorce is a momentous decision. Before you begin the process, it is a good idea to ensure that you are prepared in every way possible. The last thing you want is to be knee-deep in divorce proceedings and realize you are unprepared to address a critical question.

Preparing Financially

The first thing any professional will recommend is to begin saving money. It is not only attorneys that cost money, but there will also be many different sets of bills. Without your spouse’s income, it may be harder to pay them. It is imperative, however, that you not do this after you have filed papers, at least not with money such as your paycheck that can be considered marital property. Illinois is an equitable distribution state, meaning that marital property is distributed to the spouses in the most equitable manner possible upon a divorce. Concealing money that is earmarked as marital property, as spouses’ paychecks usually are, can lead to accusations of hiding assets.  

Posted on in Divorce

Kane County divorce attorneysIt is one thing to be done trying to make a failing marriage work and quite another to feel sure that you are emotionally ready for divorce. Divorce is a crucial life decision and is not always quick and easy. The benefits of being emotionally prepared for the legal battle ahead are numerous, and those who are often come out on the other end much happier. There are a few questions that anyone considering divorce must answer so they can make a clear and definitive decision.

Is the Marriage Benefitting Everyone?

This question is not just if your existing relationship is helping the children or your spouse, but is it benefitting everyone in the household? Most importantly, is it benefiting you? Your needs are just as important and valid as your spouse, so it has to work for you as well.

Posted on in Divorce

knowledge,divorce, Geneva divorce lawyerFor many individuals going through a divorce, the process can be frightening, stressful, and, at times, completely overwhelming. To be sure, ending a marriage is rarely easy; anyone who says otherwise has probably never experienced it. On the other hand, your divorce does not need to be as traumatic as you might think, even taking into account the wide range of accompanying emotions. Perhaps the biggest source of anxiety and trouble in a divorce is the fear of the unknown. What should I do first? Then what? How much will it cost? Will I be okay when it is all over? While questions like these are certainly valid, a little effort and research can help you obtain the knowledge you need to face your divorce with a sense of confidence and hope.

Knowledge of Your Current Situation

Before you even begin the divorce process, you need to take stock of what you own, both individually and as a couple. This can be rather difficult if your spouse has been handling the household finances, but now is the time for you to learn. Go through bank records, tax returns, credit card statements, and any other available documents to be sure you know exactly where you stand financially. You should also make a list of physical property that is likely to be divided between you and your spouse, including cars, furniture, valuable jewelry and antiques, artwork, and real estate. Last, but certainly not least, if you have children, you will need to fully understand their needs, especially in light of upcoming changes.

parenting, parenting plan, Geneva family lawyerWhen it becomes evident that you are headed for divorce, it is important to start planning for the process. You will need to have a good understanding of your current financial situation and what constitutes your ideal post-divorce scenario. Depending upon the circumstances of your relationship with your spouse, you may be able begin negotiating the terms of your divorce agreement. At first, of course, such discussions would need to be relatively informal, but you and your spouse can at least start talking about the future. The conversation is even more important if you have a child or children together, so that you can both better understand the role you are to play in your child’s upbringing.

Determine a Primary Residence

Among your first child-related concerns should be which parent will assume responsibility for a majority of the parenting time. This is an important consideration in determining where the child will attend school. The parent who does not have the majority of the parenting time will most likely be responsible for paying child support. Just because one of you has less parenting time than the other is not considered to be a reflection on your parental rights; rather it is more of a logistical determination.

Recent Blog Posts



Talk to an attorney now. Call 630-232-9700.
For faster response to after-hours inquiries, please   email us.