Thinking About Divorce May Improve Your Marriage
For many married couples, divorce is a dirty word. The mere mention of it can lead individuals to begin fearing that the end of their marriage is imminent. Even just thinking about divorce can feel dangerous to many, as they begin to question their ability to fix whatever problems they may be experiencing. A recent study suggests that the opposite might, in fact, be true, and that giving some thought to divorce can actually improve a couple’s marriage.
Funded by Brigham Young University in Utah, and conducted by researchers from six different universities including BYU, the study surveyed 3,000 married individuals between the ages of 25 and 55 from around the United States. The results indicated that more than half of married people have had thoughts about divorce, either recently or in the past. Most of the thoughts were described by researchers as more “soft” than “serious,” and that a large number of those who think about divorce want to work on the marriage.
According to the study, only one percent of respondents who have recently thought about divorce indicated that they were not currently happy to still be with their spouses. Dr. Alan Hawkins, professor of Family Life at BYU, observed that this was an indication that “thoughts about divorce can be a healthy wake-up call to work on a marriage.” It would certainly seem, that if the study is accurate, that thought of divorce can be beneficial to a marriage, if they are handled appropriately and used to make positive changes.
Sometimes Divorce is Necessary
In some cases, no matter how hard the couple tries, saving the marriage just may not be possible. This could be the result of individuals having grown apart, or having been incompatible from the very beginning. Whatever the reason, no amount of work can resuscitate a relationship that has deteriorated beyond repair.
If your feel that your marriage has reached such a point and are wondering what your next step should be, contact an experienced Geneva family law attorney. At our law firm, we are sensitive to the needs of those dealing with difficult circumstances and are prepared to offer our assistance in any way we can. Call 630-232-9700 today to schedule an appointment at The Law Offices of Douglas B. Warlick & Associates and get the professional representation you deserve from an attorney committed to serving you.